Take Our Qiz: Is Your Relationship Making You Depressed?
中的一个most popular topics members wish to discuss here onmydepressionConnection.is about their关系。We hear from partners who suffer from depression as well as boyfriends, girlfriends, and spouses who are at a loss as to how to help their depressed partner. Let's face it. When pre-existing depression is a third party in your relationship, things can get rocky and fast. But can your relationship actually cause depression? Isn't depression biological in origin? Would the individual diagnosed with depression be depressed whether or not they were in a "good" or "bad" relationship? These are not easy questions to answer. It is true that a lot of depression is biological in nature. Yet it is also true that our environment, which includes other people, can play a huge role in our mental wellness. People who feel loved and supported fare better with their mood disorder or mental illness than those who do not feel supported or cared for by their partner. Most people will confess that an unhealthy relationship can contribute to symptoms of depression and emotional distress. In this post we are going to discuss some of the signs of a depression-inducing relationship.
1。Do you feel trapped in your relationship?
感到被困，没有选择是抑郁症。感受到缺乏自由的人在其关系中做出决定可能会感到愉快。随着时间的推移，这种愤怒可能会向内转向，并表现为感到不值得和不显着的，前身抑郁症。健康的关系是一个合作关系，人们认为他们在做出决定时发出声音和发言权。
2。你觉得你的伴侣不支持吗？
你觉得你的伴侣在你说话时伴随着注意力吗？当你感到沮丧时，你能展示情感或分享吗？当你在美好时光和坏的时候，你的伴侣是可靠的，在那里，当你需要他或她的糟糕时？你的伴侣是否展示了共情，护理和感情？支持对不同的人来说意味着不同的东西，但通常你在肠道中知道是否有人是支持你的。如果您对这些问题的大多数问题回答了“不”，那么您可能处于一个不受支持和不健康的关系。
3.。你的伴侣经常批评你吗？
我们都有不同的看法和偏见,但致命一击icism is different. Criticism often involves making accusations of the other person's character and blaming. Instead of saying, "I was worried when you came home late" the partner who criticizes might say, "You don't care about anyone's feelings. You are so undependable."约翰戈特曼是一位婚姻关系的研究员，报告说，使用批评是他称之为“天启的四个骑兵”之一或未来离婚的预测因素。
4.。你的伴侣是否表现出蔑视你？
蔑视来自一个优越地和屈尊的地方。蔑视可以表现为侮辱，讽刺，贬低和敌对幽默。蔑视通过窥探者展示身体语言并滚动眼睛。蔑视的接收者的合作伙伴可能会觉得它们是存在的情绪化ly abused。
5.。你的伴侣是防守吗？
It is a natural instinct to wish to defend oneself when you feel under attack both physically and emotionally. Yet if this tactic is used too much during any type of discussion or conflict, there is no listening or compromise going on. The defensive partner will not take responsibility for their behavior, they will make excuses, interrupt, make counter complaints, and even whine. Extreme defensiveness pretty much communicates, "I am not listening to you" and "I choose not to change."
6.。Does your partner avoid talking about important issues?
随着防御性，蔑视和批评，避免或批评，是根据关系专家，约翰·戈尔曼的另一个离婚预测因素。Stonewaller相信他们只是不回应他们的伴侣的沟通，那么问题就会消失。但实际上，这种策略只是让事情变得更糟。这是一种被动侵略性的方法，可以在关系中获得控制，通常使其他伙伴在他们试图验证或认可的尝试中升级。
7.。Can you be yourself in this relationship?
如果你问快乐的情侣是什么让他们的关系工作如此良好，很多人会告诉你他们觉得他们的伴侣接受并自由自在。这种接受包括缺陷和所有。如果你觉得这样说，“我不能在这个人面前”因为你觉得你可能被批评或嘲笑，那么这是一个巨大的问题。如果你觉得你的伴侣试图将你塑造或改变你的人，这也是你的关系可能无法可持续的警告标志。
8.。当你和你的伴侣在一起时，你是否对自己感到难过？
Your partner should make you feel safe, loved, respected, and cherished. But if you are feeling inadequate, unworthy, sad, distrustful or fearful, there may be a problem.
9.。你能笑，和你的伴侣玩得开心吗？
The foundation for any long-lasting romantic relationship is friendship. Sex may be the element of relationships most people talk about, but over the years sex is like icing on the cake. Icing (sex) is great but it is not as good when you don't have the cake (friendship, emotional intimacy, shared interests, and the ability to have fun together.)
你喜欢和伴侣共度时光吗？你喜欢说话，笑和分享活动吗？如果答案是否定的，那么你的关系巨大就会丢失。这种在您的主要关系中的这种友谊丧失会导致孤独，隔离和抑郁的感觉。
10.。你的关系是否有滥用？
最近我们一直在讨论家庭暴力
and how it can affect bothmen和女人。虐待可以是身体，性或情绪化。
遭受虐待的妇女和男人对发展抑郁症的风险很大。如果您目前处于虐待关系，我们有很多resources for you to get help。
We would like to hear from you now. Do you feel that being in an unhealthy relationship can cause depression? What are some of the elements of an unhealthy relationship that you feel can contribute to symptoms of depression? Tell us your story. We are here to listen
For more information about this topic please refer to ourDepression and Relationships Resource Guide。
