尽管慢性疾病，但8种建立强大关系的方法
诊断类风湿性关节炎不仅可以针对患者造成毁灭性，而且对亲人进行毁灭性。有一种说法是，当一个人与Ra生活时，家庭住在RA。疾病不是一个体贴的家庭成员，经常会干涉，似乎尽力在鉴于机会时对任何关系造成伤害。尽管慢性疾病，这里有八种方式，您和您的伴侣可以保持健康的关系。
创建一个安全的环境
为您的伴侣创建一个安全的环境，并愿意要求您的伴侣在需要时为您创建安全环境。这些关系的每个成员都需要知道他们的伴侣致力于将来共同致力于未来。情绪安全感来自能够公开表达自己的思想和感受，并接受彼此的差异。随着物理需求的变化，在家里进行改变，以帮助人们尽可能独立。与在处理慢性医疗条件方面拥有专业知识的财务计划者可能有助于单独和集体改善金融安全。
It is also very important that each partner knows that he/she is free from the threat of physical harm. If either member feels that he/she is the victim of any form of abuse - physical, sexual, emotional, economic, medical, or psychological - he/she should reach out for help and may contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
创造一种阳性文化
通过创造积极的连接来保护您的关系与困难时期。在本书中“7原则制作婚姻工作”，戈特曼博士和南银市列出62个活动，促进了一段情感的积极情绪。该清单包括诸如饮食（没有分心），在一天结束时重新统一，并谈论在当天期间彼此相互调用（文本/电子邮件或发送积极的想法）。
Research indicates that successful relationships have five times more positive interactions than negative ones during arguments, and up to 20 times more positive than negative exchanges in regular interactions. Words of appreciation are important in any relationship but perhaps more so once chronic illness has entered the relationship. Speak of hope and a future, even when you have to talk about grief and loss. Focus on us and we, rather than I and you. Remember, you are in this together
让你的关系成为优先权
承担使您的关系成功的责任，并保持夫妇时尚。健康的夫妻管理他们的关系，而不是只是让事情发生。计划定期满足一对谈论，讨论发生的任何问题，但尚未得到解决，以防止被忽视的问题从手中生长。
日期夜晚是与您的伴侣联系的绝佳方式。他们不需要详细说明也不昂贵，因为它的目的是共度时光一起做一些你喜欢的东西，比如看一部电影，出去吃饭，玩棋盘游戏，或者坐在门廊里在一起说话而没有讨论问题，在没有讨论问题的情况下讨论 -法律或其他压力师。
专注于制定有效的问题解决技巧和攻击作为一支球队的挑战。不要认为需要一定时间以某种方式完成的事情。保持灵活性。每天也需要一些时刻，以考虑与您的伴侣联系的方法。这是一个很小的积极的东西，经常完成，这可以是一个真正的差异。
彼此清晰，有效地和富有同情心的沟通
让你的伴侣知道，没有什么比了解她或他所说的更重要。愿意表达您的需求和欲望。与您的伴侣一起练习积极的聆听和善解响应。积极聆听的目标是为每个人都感受到理解，而不是达成协议或解决问题（尚未）。轮流说话和倾听;让另一个人释放你刚才所说的，以便你有机会澄清是否需要。继续前后，直到两个人在开始解决问题之前真的被理解。
同理心不应该与同情混淆。它不涉及用扬声器识别，而是传达对演讲者所说背后的情绪的理解。同情响应和释义之间的主要区别在于，同理心主要是作为对方感受的反映而不是关注通信的内容。异常反应的例子可能会以：“你必须对”或“你似乎喜欢”的“或”你似乎感到不舒服“，它只是
当配偶分离响应低，患者或配偶抑郁症显着预测了RA患者的较差的婚姻质量
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Using effective communication skills can improve the dynamics of your relationships, both at home and otherwise. My therapist recommends that couples practice "compassionate consultation." While this will not change the fact that you and your partner are living with a chronic illness, it may help you better manage the challenges of daily life.
对彼此展示欣赏
Praise each other regularly. Find ways to express admiration and appreciation to your partner every day. People like to know when they have done something that makes someone they love happy. When people know what they did that was pleasing, it often increases the chances that they will do it again. Smile and laugh often; both can be highly contagious.
Strengthen social connections
Chronic illness can be isolating; so can caregiving. Having strong friendships and a social network can buffer against depression for both partners. Balancing the desire to connect with others with the spontaneity and flexibility often required when living with an unpredictable disease can be a challenge at times. Avoid feeling guilty for needing to change plans at the last minute. It is better to make plans and have the option of socializing (or canceling) than to never connect with others at all. If you're the caregiver, you should also feel free to socialize alone without feeling guilty about it. Keeping your own identity and interests are important to a healthy relationship. Also, for times that friends or relatives ask what they can do to help, be prepared with a list of things that need to be done.
好好照顾自己
This goes for both partners. Relaxation techniques, regular exercise, staying active, adequate sleep, and eating healthy foods all help to reduce stress and promote wellness. Stay socially active and spend time with people who make you feel better. Get help if you begin to feel overwhelmed, stressed, depressed, or anxious. And, seek appropriate medical treatment and aggressively treat disease to protect your health.
Focus on intimacy rather than sex
亲密关系比性交更重要。与您的伴侣联系在情绪水平上对任何健康的关系至关重要。通常是令人满意的旅程，而不是实现特定目标，例如性高潮。性行为经常被标记为前戏，例如色情对话，触摸，接吻和生殖器刺激，可以在身体上和情感地满足自己的性活动。玩得开心，享受你所爱的人的时间。
想象力,创造力,幽默感,playfulness are vital to maintaining a healthy sex life. If chronic illness has interfered with your personal relationship and things are falling apart, please consider counseling. Talking with a counselor can help you and your partner work through emotional challenges such as resentment, guilt, or other negative feelings related to your physical relationship.
